Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu
Rulings on Fasting For Women
1. A woman who has reached the age of puberty, but is too shy to tell anyone, so she does not fast, has to repent and make up the days she has missed, as well as feeding a poor person for each day, as an act of expiation for delaying her fast, if the following Ramadaan comes and she has not yet made up those days. Her case is like that of a woman who fasts the days of her period out of shyness, and does not make them up later.
2. If a woman does not know exactly how many days she has missed, she should fast until she is fairly certain that she has made up the days she had missed and not made up from previous Ramadaans, and offer the expiation for delaying for each day. She can do this at the same time as fasting or separately, depending on what she is able to do
3. A woman should not fast – except during Ramadaan – if her husband is present then take his permission, but if he is travelling then it does not matter.
4. When a menstruating woman sees the white substance – which is discharged by the uterus when the period is finished – by which a woman knows that she has now become taahir (pure), she should have the intention to fast from the night before and should fast. If she does not have a time when she knows she is taahir, she should insert a piece of cotton or something similar, and if it comes out clean, she should fast, and if she starts to bleed again, she should stop fasting, whether the blood is a flow or just spotting, because it breaks the fast as long as it comes at the time of the period. (Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/154).
5. If the cessation of bleeding continues until Maghrib, and she has fasted with the intention from the night before, then her fast is valid. If a woman feels the movement of menstrual blood inside her, but is does not come out until after the sun has set, her fast is valid and she does not have to make the day up later.
6. If a womans period or post-natal bleeding ceases during the night, and she makes the intention to fast, but dawn comes before she is able to do ghusl, according to all the scholars her fast is valid. (al-Fath, 4/148)
7. If a woman knows that her period will come tomorrow, she should still continue her intention and keep fasting; she should not break her fast until she actually sees the blood.
8. It is better for a menstruating woman to remain natural and accept what Allaah has decreed for her by not taking any medication to prevent her from bleeding. She should be content with what Allaah accepts from her of breaking her fast during her period and making those days up later. This is how the Mothers of the Believers and the women of the salaf were. (Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/151). Moreover, there is medical evidence to prove that many of the things used to prevent bleeding are in fact harmful, and many women have suffered from irregular periods as a result of taking them. However, if a woman does that and takes something to stop the bleeding, then fasts, this is OK.
9. Istihaadah (non-menstrual vaginal bleeding) does not have any effect on the validity of the fast.
10. If a pregnant woman miscarries and the foetus is formed or has a discernible outline of any part of the body, such as a head or hand, then her blood is nifaas; if, however, she passes something that looks like a blood clot (‘alaq) or a chewed piece of meat that has no discernible human features, her bleeding is istihaadah and she has to fast, if she is able, otherwise she can break her fast and make it up later on. (Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/224). Once she becomes clean after having an operation to clean the womb (D&C), she should fast. The scholars stated that the embryo is considered to start taking shape after 80 days of pregnancy.
11. If a woman becomes clean from nifaas before forty days, she should fast and do ghusl so that she can pray. (al-Mughni ma’a al-Sharh al-Kabeer, 1/360). If the bleeding resumes within forty days after the birth, she should stop fasting, because this is still nifaas. If the bleeding continues after the fortieth day, she should make the intention to fast and do ghusl (according to the majority of scholars), and any bleeding beyond the fortieth day is considered to be istihaadah (non-menstrual bleeding) – unless it coincides with the usual time of her period, in which case it is hayd (menstrual blood).
12. If a breastfeeding woman fasts during the day and sees a spot of blood during the night, although she was clean during the day, her fast is still valid. (Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daaimah, 10/150)
13. According to the most correct opinion, a woman who is pregnant or breastfeeding is regarded as being like one who is ill, so she is permitted not to fast, and she only has to make up the days that she missed, whether she fears for herself or for her child. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Allaah has lifted the obligation of fasting and part of the prayer from the traveller, and He has lifted the obligation of fasting from the pregnant and breastfeeding woman." (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 3/85; he said (it is a) hasan hadeeth). If a pregnant woman fasts and experiences some bleeding, her fast is still valid; this does not affect her fast at all. (Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/225).
14. In the case of a woman who is obliged to fast, if her husband has intercourse with her during the day in Ramadaan with her consent, then the ruling that applies to him also applies to her. If, however, he forces her to do that, she should do her best to resist him, and she does not have to offer expiation. Ibn ‘Aqeel (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: "In the case of a man who has intercourse with his wife during the day in Ramadaan whilst she is sleeping, she does not have to offer expiation." But to be on the safe side, she should make up that fast later on. (Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was of the opinion that this did not invalidate her fast at all).
15. A woman who knows that her husband cannot control himself should keep away from him and not adorn herself during the day in Ramadaan.
16. Women have to make up the fasts that they miss during Ramadaan, even without their husbands’ knowledge. It is not a condition for an obligatory fast for a woman to have the permission of her husband. If a woman starts to observe an obligatory fast, she is not allowed to break it except for a legitimate reason. Her husband is not permitted to order her to break her fast when she is making up a day that she has missed; he is not allowed to have intercourse with her when she is making up a missed fast, and she is not allowed to obey him in that regard. (Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/353).
17. In the case of voluntary fasts, a woman is not permitted to start a non-obligatory fast when her husband is present without his permission, because of the hadeeth narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him), according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "No woman should fast when her husband is present except with his permission." (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4793).
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
Monday, October 13, 2008
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Doa Pelembut Hati *termasuk hati sendiri)
Doa pelembut hati ini boleh digunakan untuk semua orang yang keras hati (melawan dan tidak menurut kata) termasuk diri sendiri, anak-anak atau sesiapa sahaja.
CARA-CARA :
• Untuk diri sendiri ; letak tangan kanan di atas dada iaitu di atas bahagian hati dan baca doa di bawah.
• Kemudian tarik nafas perlahan-lahan hingga habis nafas dan lepaskanlah nafas.
Untuk orang lain ; ketika membaca doa letakkan tangan kanan di dada iaitu di bahagian hati orang yang nak didoakan tersebut.
Atau dibacakan pada air untuk diberi minum kepada orang yang nak dilembutkan hati tersebut.
*Tambahan ; untuk lembutkan hati anak-anak, boleh air ini dibuat untuk memasak nasi atau dimasukkan dalam bahan masakan ibu..air itu di masukkan di dalam bilasan baju terakhir..boleh masuk dalam spray..spray muka dia masa nak kejut pepagi..kata jer air jampi untuk bagi nampak lawo..macammacam lah..kita ibu..semua kita boleh buat..anak anak..kalau cakap ibu inshallah..tak banyak songgeh..sayang kita pun lebih sebab dia tau ibu dia prihatin..dan sayang sangat kat dia..
1. Baca surah Al-Fatihah ( Bismillah …)
2. Baca ayat 21 hingga 24 Surah Al-Hashr :-( لَوْ أَنْزَلْنَا هَذَا الْقُرْآنَ ..... hingga)) …. (Launazlna )
هُوَ الْعَزِيْزُ الْحَكِي
3.Baca ayat 1 hingga 5 Surah Tohaa :-( طَه , مَا أَنْزَلْنَا عَلَيْكَ الْقُرْآنَ ......( hingga ) .....
4.Doa pelembut hati :" اَللّهُمَّ لَيِّنْ لِيْ قََََلْبَهُ كَمَا لَيَّنْتَ لِدَاوُدَ الْحَدِيْدَ
"Maksudnya; ( Ya Allah lembutkanlah bagiku hatinya sebagaimana kamu telah melembutkan besi bagi Nabi Daud Alaihissalam ) (doa nabi daud)
Boleh juga kita dan perbanyakkan doa dalam solat terutama semasa waktu sujud.
"Ya Allah, saya memohonkan pilihan menurut pengetahuanMu dan memohonkan penetapan dengan kesuasaanMu juga saya memohonkan kurniaMu yang besar, sebab sesungguhnya Engkaulah yang Maha Mengetahui dan saya tidak mengetahui apa-apa. Engkau Maha Mengetahui segala yang ghaib.
Ya Allah, jikalau di dalam ilmuMu bahawa urusan saya ini........baik untukku dalam agamaku, kehidupanku serta akibat urusanku, maka takdirkanlah untukku dan mudahkanlah serta berikanlah berkah kepadaku di dalamnya. Sebaliknya jikala di dalam ilmumu bahawa urusan ini buruk untukku, dalam agamaku, kehidupan serta akibat urusanku, maka jauhkanlah hal itu daripadaku dan jauhkanlah aku daripadanya serta takdirkanlah untukku yang baik-baik saja dimana saja adanya, kemudian puaskanlah hatiku dengan takdirMu itu."
Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Pengabul Doa, Maha Mendengar lagi Mengasihani.
CARA-CARA :
• Untuk diri sendiri ; letak tangan kanan di atas dada iaitu di atas bahagian hati dan baca doa di bawah.
• Kemudian tarik nafas perlahan-lahan hingga habis nafas dan lepaskanlah nafas.
Untuk orang lain ; ketika membaca doa letakkan tangan kanan di dada iaitu di bahagian hati orang yang nak didoakan tersebut.
Atau dibacakan pada air untuk diberi minum kepada orang yang nak dilembutkan hati tersebut.
*Tambahan ; untuk lembutkan hati anak-anak, boleh air ini dibuat untuk memasak nasi atau dimasukkan dalam bahan masakan ibu..air itu di masukkan di dalam bilasan baju terakhir..boleh masuk dalam spray..spray muka dia masa nak kejut pepagi..kata jer air jampi untuk bagi nampak lawo..macammacam lah..kita ibu..semua kita boleh buat..anak anak..kalau cakap ibu inshallah..tak banyak songgeh..sayang kita pun lebih sebab dia tau ibu dia prihatin..dan sayang sangat kat dia..
1. Baca surah Al-Fatihah ( Bismillah …)
2. Baca ayat 21 hingga 24 Surah Al-Hashr :-( لَوْ أَنْزَلْنَا هَذَا الْقُرْآنَ ..... hingga)) …. (Launazlna )
هُوَ الْعَزِيْزُ الْحَكِي
3.Baca ayat 1 hingga 5 Surah Tohaa :-( طَه , مَا أَنْزَلْنَا عَلَيْكَ الْقُرْآنَ ......( hingga ) .....
4.Doa pelembut hati :" اَللّهُمَّ لَيِّنْ لِيْ قََََلْبَهُ كَمَا لَيَّنْتَ لِدَاوُدَ الْحَدِيْدَ
"Maksudnya; ( Ya Allah lembutkanlah bagiku hatinya sebagaimana kamu telah melembutkan besi bagi Nabi Daud Alaihissalam ) (doa nabi daud)
Boleh juga kita dan perbanyakkan doa dalam solat terutama semasa waktu sujud.
"Ya Allah, saya memohonkan pilihan menurut pengetahuanMu dan memohonkan penetapan dengan kesuasaanMu juga saya memohonkan kurniaMu yang besar, sebab sesungguhnya Engkaulah yang Maha Mengetahui dan saya tidak mengetahui apa-apa. Engkau Maha Mengetahui segala yang ghaib.
Ya Allah, jikalau di dalam ilmuMu bahawa urusan saya ini........baik untukku dalam agamaku, kehidupanku serta akibat urusanku, maka takdirkanlah untukku dan mudahkanlah serta berikanlah berkah kepadaku di dalamnya. Sebaliknya jikala di dalam ilmumu bahawa urusan ini buruk untukku, dalam agamaku, kehidupan serta akibat urusanku, maka jauhkanlah hal itu daripadaku dan jauhkanlah aku daripadanya serta takdirkanlah untukku yang baik-baik saja dimana saja adanya, kemudian puaskanlah hatiku dengan takdirMu itu."
Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Pengabul Doa, Maha Mendengar lagi Mengasihani.
Saturday, October 4, 2008
space
it has been long since i have taken any annual leave to be with my family, my ayang and the kids has been so used not to have me around the house all the time.
as usual they do not bother much when i am infront of my laptop. i am not sure there are trying to be nice or i have been ignored.
who is complaining now, except my ayang who will be taking a nap near me but the rest is not lingering around me at all. i have been dumped.
even Aida the youngest keep disappering with my sister and yesterday she stayed overnight. it is not fair to them that i am going to sit for my final exam this semester soon enough.
this year is the most boring Hari Raya so proclaimed my eldest daughter, she missed Alor Star, she missed the yearly barbacue with her aunties and uncles and nephews.
today she so bored that she help me cooking...hmm, to kill time I guess or to bury the sorrow with food , poor girl, since all of her friends are still somewhere but far from home.
my nieces and nephews and my two other sisters (different mother) came to visit at the same time, hardly there are space to sit. in total there are 5 families x 5 = 25 people (10 adults and fifteen kids), my father was overwhelmed with the crowd. he loves to be centre of the attention.
this morning he was blabbering about liverpool, where once he was there for two years around 1953, ah yes, anuar zain is visiting liverpool hari raya documentary, he still missed london, yorkshire, liverpool and all the memories lingers here and there, deep in my heart, how I wish to be there too.
as usual they do not bother much when i am infront of my laptop. i am not sure there are trying to be nice or i have been ignored.
who is complaining now, except my ayang who will be taking a nap near me but the rest is not lingering around me at all. i have been dumped.
even Aida the youngest keep disappering with my sister and yesterday she stayed overnight. it is not fair to them that i am going to sit for my final exam this semester soon enough.
this year is the most boring Hari Raya so proclaimed my eldest daughter, she missed Alor Star, she missed the yearly barbacue with her aunties and uncles and nephews.
today she so bored that she help me cooking...hmm, to kill time I guess or to bury the sorrow with food , poor girl, since all of her friends are still somewhere but far from home.
my nieces and nephews and my two other sisters (different mother) came to visit at the same time, hardly there are space to sit. in total there are 5 families x 5 = 25 people (10 adults and fifteen kids), my father was overwhelmed with the crowd. he loves to be centre of the attention.
this morning he was blabbering about liverpool, where once he was there for two years around 1953, ah yes, anuar zain is visiting liverpool hari raya documentary, he still missed london, yorkshire, liverpool and all the memories lingers here and there, deep in my heart, how I wish to be there too.
Friday, October 3, 2008
3rd Shawal
woke up earlier than yesterday.. had more than enough rest..no stress..no deadline except exam is round the corner ...self made stress..
my eldest sister came to visit..came back from penang last night..she is soo tired and without fail will find peace at my house..
my ayang is visiting his friends after the solah jumaat..it is 3.00pm and my sister is finding solace in my house..she brought some ole ole from penang..aah..the best belacan so she said..poor kaklong..she is so lonely at home..and me of no help is studying while she is busy talking but the best part..wow she complimented my house..seldom she finds the house suitable for living nor breathing...
and that it for today..
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Today
2nd day of Shawal.. in KL..15 hours staying at home..no visitor today..at 9.00pm before my kids go crazy of boredom we take them out for dinner..they have enough rendang and kuah kacang..they need to breath..
not many malays at ABC..and the service is super slow..patience..tolerating moderately..my kids are doing ward rounds..let them be..and they came running to the table..once they saw the food is coming to the table..
within 5 minutes.."can I have second ma"..no way..who on earth will be willing to wait for another 30 minutes of roti canai telur..not me..
are you still hungry..can you eat cereal at home please..mama will kill one or two mamaks if they make me wait another 30 minutes..my..son..just nodded his head..he knew..waiting is not my bread and butter and to see his mother making a scene..is too much to stomach..
and that it for today..boring...
not many malays at ABC..and the service is super slow..patience..tolerating moderately..my kids are doing ward rounds..let them be..and they came running to the table..once they saw the food is coming to the table..
within 5 minutes.."can I have second ma"..no way..who on earth will be willing to wait for another 30 minutes of roti canai telur..not me..
are you still hungry..can you eat cereal at home please..mama will kill one or two mamaks if they make me wait another 30 minutes..my..son..just nodded his head..he knew..waiting is not my bread and butter and to see his mother making a scene..is too much to stomach..
and that it for today..boring...
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Raya 1 shawal
woke up at 6.00 am..the feeling is different...there are still aplenty of things to do..but first..the prayer..and oh yes ..and the special bath to celebrate the 1st shawal...ayang, pretending to sleep..but when he knows that I am going to sit on top of him..he quickly give a playful smack at my hip..aha..he is awake.. bang...tolong mama..keja banyak tu...anak anak kasi gerak..suruh mandi sunat aidil fitri...."..as a mother if we do not remind them..either they forgot or purposely do not want to remember..aaah children..i was one...before..
in my last sujud..i pray to all...the past families especially my mum to be well taken care off up there..my friends that were once were very closed to me....sickness.accidents..only god knows ...every human will have one or two of their beloved being taken away..you heart yearned but you accepted the fact..
then...busy preparing the breakfast so they can have a bite before going for the aidil fitri prayer..ayang...give a bath to grandpapa..aida..chirpy as usual..asking why are they not fasting anymore..why today are the celebration why we only fast 30 days..why we must have the special bath..why..all the whys...driving me half there..but reminded myself..this current whys will stop soon since she is already nine..I must enjoy all the questions while I can..examples are there..my two other kids hardly speak..nor ask..they are more content with chatting..smsing and television..
I wore the new jubah present from ayang..but changed my mine since it is too long..I have not done any alteration to the jubah..last minute shopping..but wore it for a while to make sure that ayang knew I love his present...(older it is the more sensitive they are)..
Since Aida must not go, Ecah need to sacrifice to take care of her and granpapa...I had never expected this...we miss the prayer..when we reached the sg serai masjid..it was the last rukuk..and I were very very dissapointed ...but stayed for the Khutbah..
Grandpapa@Atuk has taken breakfast..thanks to Ecah..we all line up infront of him and ask for forgiveness..when it is my turn..he was in tears..I knew..every helpless person will feel the same..grateful..thankful to anyone who still can share the unlimited unconditional love..
how many houses he has been hoping until he do not want to move anymore when he stayed with me when my other siblings persuade to take him in..he will always says..visiting yes..overnight no......it is tiring..but my children are blessed to have someone to be there all the time..
My younger sister and my younger brother came to see father, that is the catch if you have the elder ones..you house will be visited..than you can torcher them nicely..(ha ha ha)..sorry..carried away..
I visited a few houses too and headed home since I felt too tired. I took a nap but was awaken with the high pitch of Aida shouting.."mama mama, kawan baby datang"....and it went on until 7.00 pm...
It was a tiring and fruitful day...
8.30 pm..Mama mama..jum kita gi kedai ABC...(Aida favourite mamak shop near Balakong)...
no way..malam ni mama nak study...he he he..(so I posted this)..
in my last sujud..i pray to all...the past families especially my mum to be well taken care off up there..my friends that were once were very closed to me....sickness.accidents..only god knows ...every human will have one or two of their beloved being taken away..you heart yearned but you accepted the fact..
then...busy preparing the breakfast so they can have a bite before going for the aidil fitri prayer..ayang...give a bath to grandpapa..aida..chirpy as usual..asking why are they not fasting anymore..why today are the celebration why we only fast 30 days..why we must have the special bath..why..all the whys...driving me half there..but reminded myself..this current whys will stop soon since she is already nine..I must enjoy all the questions while I can..examples are there..my two other kids hardly speak..nor ask..they are more content with chatting..smsing and television..
I wore the new jubah present from ayang..but changed my mine since it is too long..I have not done any alteration to the jubah..last minute shopping..but wore it for a while to make sure that ayang knew I love his present...(older it is the more sensitive they are)..
Since Aida must not go, Ecah need to sacrifice to take care of her and granpapa...I had never expected this...we miss the prayer..when we reached the sg serai masjid..it was the last rukuk..and I were very very dissapointed ...but stayed for the Khutbah..
Grandpapa@Atuk has taken breakfast..thanks to Ecah..we all line up infront of him and ask for forgiveness..when it is my turn..he was in tears..I knew..every helpless person will feel the same..grateful..thankful to anyone who still can share the unlimited unconditional love..
how many houses he has been hoping until he do not want to move anymore when he stayed with me when my other siblings persuade to take him in..he will always says..visiting yes..overnight no......it is tiring..but my children are blessed to have someone to be there all the time..
My younger sister and my younger brother came to see father, that is the catch if you have the elder ones..you house will be visited..than you can torcher them nicely..(ha ha ha)..sorry..carried away..
I visited a few houses too and headed home since I felt too tired. I took a nap but was awaken with the high pitch of Aida shouting.."mama mama, kawan baby datang"....and it went on until 7.00 pm...
It was a tiring and fruitful day...
8.30 pm..Mama mama..jum kita gi kedai ABC...(Aida favourite mamak shop near Balakong)...
no way..malam ni mama nak study...he he he..(so I posted this)..
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